She’s Still in There

🌸 Message from the CEO,

Hey sis! I hope you’re having a beautiful week, especially when it comes to your relationships. Whether it’s with your spouse, your kids, your besties, your parents, or even your siblings, I truly pray peace, love, and joy are flowing in those spaces of your life.

If this newsletter has been a blessing to you, don’t keep it to yourself, send it to a friend so they can get some of this goodness too! You never know who might need a little encouragement in their season.

I’m praying for you always. And if you ever want to chat, vent, or ask for advice, you can simply reply to this email or DM me on Instagram @NicoMeyers. I’m always around 💛

Let’s dive in.

With love & light,
– Nico Meyers

Story Time!

✝️ God Reminded Me Who I Was…

Tiana had three babies in four years, ran a household, held down a remote job, and still tried to keep her hair done and stomach flat. But somewhere in between ballet recitals and Amazon Prime boxes, she looked in the mirror and couldn’t recognize the girl she used to be.

She loves her family deeply, they are her pride and joy but missed the version of herself that wasn’t always running on empty.

One morning, in tears on the bathroom floor, she prayed, “Lord, I feel like I’m fading.” That same week, her mom offered to take the kids for the weekend, no reason, just “felt led to.” With a quiet house and a quiet heart, she journaled for the first time in years. She didn’t plan it. It just poured out. And it was in that moment she felt like herself again.

Through prayer and meditating on God’s Word, she realized she wasn’t lost, she had evolved. She was a wiser version of the woman she once was. A more refined, valued version, not just by her husband and children, but by herself. She asked God for support and started taking action: a sitter once a week, a new morning routine, a devotional time just for her. She stopped surviving the season and started walking in it with poise.

And the best part? Her peace came back. Her joy came back. And now, even in the chaos, she shows up full and not just for everyone else, but for herself too. She’s not doing it alone, God is with her every step of the way. She no longer forgot that. 

Takeaway:
You don’t have to choose between your roles and your identity. God made room for both.

Verse to Meditate:
“Remain in me, as I also remain in you.” – John 15:4

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💍 For Wives

“You’re Not Just What You Do… You Are You.”

Somewhere between the carpool lane, cooking dinner, and answering emails… you forgot who you were.

Not on purpose. But piece by piece the dreams, the creativity, the parts of you that felt vibrant got buried under all the roles you carry.

Between being a wife, mom, homemaker, careerwoman, encourager, and part-time therapist (let’s be honest), it’s easy to lose yourself in the mix of all these roles.

A lot of us were taught to do it all. But no one really showed us how to be ourselves in the middle of all that doing.

So we start shrinking… pushing our dreams, hobbies, and God-given identity to the back burner “for the sake of the family.”

When God made you, He didn’t put your identity on pause once you said “I do.” If anything he enhanced it.

You’re not lost.

You just need to reintroduce yourself to who you are in this season, not who you were before the kids, before the marriage, or before life got heavy.

God is still writing your story, and He knows exactly how to lead you back to feeling like yourself but a version that’s wiser, softer, stronger, and more anchored in Him.

The Word says, “For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things He planned for us long ago.” (Ephesians 2:10, NLT)

That masterpiece didn’t vanish when you became a wife or mama, it evolved.

So how do you reconnect with her?

✨ Start with God before roles.

Before you step into “mama” or “wife” or “boss” start with “daughter.” Spend even 5–10 minutes with God first thing. Journal. READ THAT BIBLE. Pray out loud while folding laundry. Let Him remind you who you are in His eyes, not just who you are to everyone else.

✨ Move your body, even when you don’t recognize it.

Whether you’ve had a baby recently or years ago, your body has been through something. It’s easy to neglect movement when nothing in the closet fits or your to-do list is through the roof, but exercise isn’t about a “snap back” it’s about reclaiming ownership of your body. Start with a walk after the kids go to bed. Stretch in the living room during cartoons. Or even go get a gym membership.

✨ Make space to create.

That might mean journaling during nap time or painting while Cocomelon plays in the background, Maybe going to the local rec center to take a swim. We all done played some sorta sport when we were kids. Go do that lol. Regardless you don’t need silence, you need permission from yourself to do something that lights you up, even if it’s just for 10 minutes.

✨ Ask for help, unapologetically.

You were never meant to do it all alone. The Proverbs 31 woman delegated, she had servants (Proverbs 31:15–17) whom she took great care of. In your world, that might look like ordering groceries, hiring a sitter once a week, or finally telling your spouse, “Hey, I need a moment.” Wise women don’t try to be superheroes, they build support systems.

✨ Do one thing every week that’s just for you.

Read a book. Get your nails done. Watch your favorite throwback movie in peace. It doesn’t need to be expensive or aesthetic, it just needs to be for you.

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You’re not failing because you feel tired or disconnected. You’re just being invited into a new season of rediscovery. And God is ready to walk it with you hand in hand.

💗 For Singles:

“Don’t Wait to Find Yourself Later… Do It Now”

Here’s the truth… you ready? Marriage doesn’t give you an identity, it exposes the one you’ve already built.

If you don’t know who you are now, you’ll end up molding yourself into whoever someone else needs you to be… and somewhere along the way, you may just lose your voice, your confidence, your rhythm and eventually, have to start the journey of finding yourself all over again.

Might as well do it before the vows.

“You are a chosen people. You are royal priests, a holy nation, God’s very own possession.” – 1 Peter 2:9 (NLT)

Before you become a wife, a mama, or anyone’s “Mrs.” you are first and forever His. And that identity? That’s the foundation everything else should be built on.

This is a preventative measure, not just encouragement.

When new titles enter your life, such as wife, mom, homemaker, or provider, they can easily distract you from your first and most important title: child of God.

With that title comes an assignment, a plan, and a purpose that does not pause when your life changes. The more your responsibilities grow, the more important it becomes to stay rooted in who God says you are.

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Here’s how to grow in identity before the ring:

✨ Build your schedule around your purpose, not your loneliness.

Don’t wait for a relationship to start living. If there’s something on your heart, whether it’s launching a blog, stepping into a new career, writing that book, or booking that solo trip then go for it. You don’t need a plus-one to walk in purpose. The right man won’t be intimidated by your calling, if anything he will enhance it. He’ll recognize the favor on your life and be drawn to it. The more aligned you are with your God-given assignment, the clearer it becomes to him that you are a ✨gift✨.

✨ Practice saying no now, so you’re ready to say yes later.

If you keep betraying your boundaries now, that same habit will follow you into marriage. Get clear on what you will and won’t accept. write it down or something. Say no to anything that drains you. Say no to men who only offer potential but no fruit 🤮. You’re not being too picky. You’re learning how to protect the garden God planted in you.

✨ Learn to bring everything to God, not just your relationship status.

Get used to talking to God about all of it. Your dreams. Your frustrations. Your fears. Your healing. Your finances. Your habits. Even your attitude. Let Him shape you in the quiet places, not just while you wait for a relationship, but as you grow into the woman you’re called to be. That’s where your identity is formed, in the secret place, not in someone else’s arms.

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Mrs. and Mom are additions to your lifestyle resume, not replacements of who you are. God is not erasing your identity when He blesses you with a husband or children. He is evolving the woman you already are.

When God sees that you’re ready, He’ll add to it. Not to complete you, but to expand you.

You’re not waiting to become anything. You’re just walking deeper into the woman God already designed you to be.

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