Lets Talk Communication

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I’m so thankful for this growing community. I’m praying we can continue to expand and reach more women across the globe. Women who are ready to heal, grow, and build healthy relationships that reflect God’s love.

Because at the end of the day, “if a house is divided against itself, that house cannot stand” (Mark 3:25). Healthy relationships and strong families matter — and we’re building that foundation together.

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– Nico Meyers

Story Time!

🗣 “We Talked Every Day, But I Still Felt Alone…”

Tasha had been married for five years when the silence started screaming louder than words.

They weren’t fighting.

They weren’t distant.

They were just… surviving.

Morning “goodbyes,” evening “what’s for dinner,” and tired nods at the end of the night.

That was it.

She tried to talk about how disconnected she felt, but he’d either brush it off with “You’re overthinking it” or shut down completely.

And after enough blank stares and shrugged shoulders, she started to shut down too.

But instead of running, she prayed.

Not just “God, fix him.”

She prayed,

That prayer changed everything.

After going to therapy she learned to communicate.

She stopped bringing up issues in the heat of the moment and waited for moments of peace.

She swapped sarcasm for softness.

She started listening to understand, not just waiting to prove her point.

And slowly, he responded.

One night, he looked at her after a real conversation and said, “I didn’t know you still felt that way. You stopped saying it in a way I couldn’t hear.”

Whew.

That moment? Healing.

They still don’t get it right every time, but now they talk, not just speak. They connect. They see each other again.

Takeaway:
He didn’t start to hear her when she talked more, he started when she invited God into how she communicated. It’s about how you say it, when you say it, and letting God guide your words so they land in love, not frustration.

Verse to Meditate:
“Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt…” – Colossians 4:6

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💍 For Wives

“Why Doesn’t He Hear Me?”

There’s something incredibly frustrating about talking for what feels like no reason at all. Words just floating in the air.

It’s not always that your husband is intentionally ignoring you, most of the time it’s about how the message is delivered, and when.

Let’s be real: yelling at him from the laundry room while he’s deep into ESPN highlights might not be the most effective move (you know men can’t multitask like that 😅).

But here’s the truth: you deserve to be heard. And you’re definitely not asking for too much.

You’re simply asking for connection.

But see connection starts with intentional communication — not throwing words into the wind and hoping he catches them because again… men.

Here are a few shifts that can help:

• Use “I” statements: Talk about you and you only sis. Soon as you get to saying “You don’t…” or “You never…” basic psychology would put the other person in defense mode… immediately. So Instead of “You never listen,” say “I feel overlooked when I’m sharing something important and don’t get a response.”

• Choose your moment wisely: Timing is everything. Sis, if he just walked through the door from work and hasn’t even gotten his big toe out of his right shoe yet, that is not the time to bring up the clothes he left on the floor right next to the hamper earlier that morning. 😅 Wait for a calm, phone-free moment with eye contact — it makes all the difference.

• Ask for feedback: Thats your husband girl, sometimes our best bet is to just ask. Things like “Can you tell me what you heard me say?” helps ensure clarity without sounding like a lecture and can bring light to how he’s receiving your words.

Proverbs 15:1 says, “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” Your tone can invite connection or shut it down — and that applies to both of you.

Yes, in a perfect world, your husband would just pick up what you’re laying down with no explanation needed. Because you’ve got laundry, work, kids, dinner, your everything shower, and 37 other tabs open in your brain.

You don’t have time to be repeating yourself, you just want to be heard.

But… we don’t live in a perfect world 😅.

Not since Adam and Eve got booted out of Eden, Jesus died on the cross, rose three days later, and will return again to cast the enemy into the lake of fire. (Yes, all that.)

So while perfection isn’t on the table, progress absolutely is. And when we learn to communicate more effectively (with grace, patience, and intention) we don’t just improve our marriage…

We improve quality of life.

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💗 For Singles:

“Practice Now, Thrive Later”

Hey girl! I know it’s easy to think communication issues are just “marriage problems.” But nope. You literally talk everyday. To co-workers, family, friends.

If you’ve ever found yourself trying to be low maintenance to keep the peace, or holding your tongue because you don’t want to be “too much,” you’re already sacrificing your voice.

Sis, say it with me: you are allowed to express your needs.

You don’t need to shrink to be chosen.

Learning to clearly communicate what you feel, what you need, and what you expect is crucial. Especially before you’re in love and sharing a home with someone. Trust me, by then you def don’t wanna be learning how to communicate (guilty 🙋🏽‍♀️).

Also, dating is not the time to play “guess what’s wrong.” If he’s not safe enough to be honest with, that’s your answer.

Here’s how to sharpen your communication now:

• Use your words: This is perfect practice for marriage prep. Don’t assume people “should just know” how you feel or what you need. (Spoiler alert: They don’t.) Communicating clearly now sets the tone for how you’ll show up in dating and marriage — and it keeps you from silently suffering or building resentment later.

• Actively listen: Don’t just wait for your turn to talk. Listen to understand — not to defend, correct, or prove your point. If you can’t do this in your friendships and dating now, you’ll bring that same struggle into marriage. Relationships thrive when both people feel heard, not just heard out.

• Practice clarity: Say what you mean. Mean what you say. And don’t say it mean. 😉 Directness is not disrespect. The goal isn’t to be harsh — it’s to be honest and kind. That’s the kind of woman who’s not only healed, but also ready for marriage.

James 1:19 reminds us to be “quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to anger.” That’s not just for the saints, it’s strategy for thriving relationships.

Let this season be the one where you become so emotionally healthy, that you’ll never settle for “kinda communicates” again. Don’t just want better, practice better. Your future husband deserves it. ❤️

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